Friday, October 05, 2012

Standard in Choosing a Partner resulting regret, failure or happiness?

Women like shopping a lot, looking for things they want to buy. Buying things pleasant to their eyes. They even like to go to the market  to buy their stuff and needs rather than man. But most woman prepared list on things they needed. They wanted to put it into places. Don't want to mess around and forgot things they needed to buy. Just like listing likes, dislikes or standard to a man of their choice. Man is like a dress or shirt in the department store waiting to be fitted by a woman. Too many choices like banded collared shirts, polo shirts,  formal shirts, blouses, tube, dresses and others with different colors and style on it. Sometimes too confuse in what to buy.  We think many times and comparing which fitted the most. Comparing the price, the color, even checking how it attracts other individual. Taking other opinion just to decide which is really the best. Opinion of others is a factor to decide. After deciding and we have it are we really satisfied? Sometimes yes and most of the time were not.I watched the movie entitled "This Means War". I'm amazed to what I've heard. The lady said you don't need to choose the better man but what you are going to do is to choose a man that makes you a better woman. Not just dress that is fitted to you. But a dress or shirt that brings out the best in you upon wearing it. Plus answering the question what makes us really satisfied and contented in choosing this or a partner.  Is this makes you happy? Without satisfaction our relationship will not grow resulting to failure and regrets. After buying the dress are you happy? After choosing your partner are you really happy? Hard decision that's why need tougher decision. Spending the rest of your life with your partner no return no exchange, it can be fulfilling or disastrous experience but need to pick someone who brings the best out of you.
In my own experience I have listed  standard in choosing a partner. Not just standard but I might say super over standard resulting regrets. Super over standard that I degrade a man. Degrading to the point I judge him based on physical appearance, ability and knowledge. Not remembering a man is wonderfully and fearfully made by God. I just hope that I've seen him before and check him out, checking what is the real truth within my heart that makes me satisfied so that I don't experience failure in choosing a partner. In my past experience I don't really know what I want to a man. It's now clear to me, what does I need to a man that will makes me happy and satisfied. Not just what minds think but what the heart beats. It should be balance. Once in my life  I regret. If I could rewind my life I should not lose my special friend. In my own opinion standard makes you satisfied but being over standard is wrong. Too far from reality. 

I red articles saying that satisfaction is the best key in choosing a partner. It must be clear in our mind ladies.  I just wanna show you this scripture Genesis 2: 18 And the Lord God said, It is not good  that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. The Lord God really knows what a man need - a woman. Genesis 2: 21-24 And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon  Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof ; And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh, she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh

 The bible told us on how to choose a partner in life. There is a standard but it will makes you happy and blessed if we choose to obey Him. But if we choose our own standard it will result failure and regret. 2 Corinthians 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? Also in Genesis 24: 3  I want you to swear by the LORD, the God of heaven and the God of earth, that you will not get a wife for my son from the daughters of the Canaanites, among whom I am living. 

Maybe most of your friend, relatives told you this one is okay or that, don't put standard but its yours to decide just be wise. It's good to listen but then good analysis and prayer without ceasing will makes you choose the right person. Bible standard means the same faith as yours it's included. How about Physical features? 1 Samuel 16:7 But the LORD said to Samuel, "Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The LORD does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart."  Don't look the outside appearance but look on his heart if he/she have a big heart that truly loves. 

In conclusion standard is not really bad as long as you don't over judge. We will regret if we choose our own standard including looks, ability, capability of a man rather than choosing God standard.